Emma's Enlightenments

"Your self worth is something you should never trade or give away"

This Week’s Advice: Knowing Your Self Worth. 

Everything has worth.  

Whether knowingly or unknowingly, everything today has worth.  

But not everything should be transactional.  

This includes your self worth. Your self worth is something you should never trade or give away. It is something that is greater than anything. 

Without self worth, even happiness can falter. Knowing your worth is the foundation for yourself. 

There have been times when I have not only questioned mine, but traded it to people, to feel loved and appreciated. This wasn’t fair to me or them. You shouldn’t have to give away parts of yourself to feel loved because love is also not transactional.  

I was stuck in a place of wanting without feeling wanted. So, I gave my worth away to feel this. I begged and begged for change, only to be given a small amount to keep me afloat. I was addicted to the short feeling I was getting, so I kept chasing it and kept giving. I was constantly gambling my own worth. 

I didn’t know who I was anymore. I felt like a shell of myself.  

Until I took it all back.  

I realized that knowing myself was more important than any fake feeling I was getting. I stood up and walked away. 

This relates to this new week because I know I am not alone in my story. If you are constantly having to trade yourself, then that is not for you. You will find something that does not take your sense of self, but, instead, celebrates it. This doesn’t just relate to relationships, but also jobs, classes and even friendships.  

Your worth is not transactional. 

You need to keep your worth and hold it in your heart. 

If something is not for you, something else is. 

You wouldn’t keep wearing a piece of clothing that doesn’t fit or is uncomfortable, so don’t stay in something that has the same effects. We are constantly growing, and if you outgrow a situation, that is not your fault. You only realize that it’s not for you anymore and keep moving.  

You are not a bad person for walking away; you are just a person. 

You are a person who also deserves happiness; you are a person who deserves to know your worth.  

Moreover, you are worth more than anything. Self worth can’t be measured because of how strong it truly is. 

We are all people, and we all deserve the best. Knowing this is the first step to gaining that self-worth. 

These upcoming weeks, and even forever, focus on honing in and knowing how much you truly deserve. You should never have to be stuck in a situation where you are questioning this.  

Take control of yourself, keep it close, and know that you deserve everything you wish for.