Don't keep reopening the same wound

Emma's Enlightentments

This Week’s Advice: Content with Aloneness  

Something I have been struggling with is being able to be alone.  

Because of this, I have led myself to the wrong arms and to the wrong people. 

A lot.  

I wanted someone to be there, so I ran to the nearest person around me. 

I needed someone to just put an arm around me and tell me everything was going to be okay. I needed interaction and reassurance, even if it was from the wrong people. 

This led to more hurt, all because I could not sit by myself for an hour. I took my feelings, pushed them down, and added more on top.  

Needless to say, being content with being alone is so hard to do. 

But, it is necessary.  

You can’t heal if you keep reopening the same wound. 

You need to be by yourself to be able to breathe sometimes, and that’s okay.  

Being alone does not mean loneliness. Being alone simply means being happy within yourself.  

Being alone is one of the scariest and hardest things to do. 

As people, we are wired to always want someone with us. We are raised with the idea that we have another half somewhere in the world, and we can’t live without them. 

We need someone to run to when things happen, we need someone to tell things to, and we need someone to simply be there. Having someone standing by your side, with an arm on your shoulder, always makes things so much easier. 

This is why it is so difficult to be comfortable without another person.  

But, sometimes, learning to put your own hand on your own shoulder is necessary.  

This relates to this upcoming week because with midterms done, the autumn air coming in and new eras starting, it can be hard to adjust by yourself. With our parents at home, we are all by ourselves. It is our turn to be adults.  

Although it is hard, it doesn’t have to be terrible. Being alone definitely can be a good thing. We learn so much from it, especially about ourselves. This is a time where we are learning more about ourselves than ever.  

Therefore, it is important to stay strong and remember that healing, changing and just being by yourself does not have to be scary.  

Joy is sometimes found in the calmness of aloneness.